The Webpreneur Nerd

Death to New Years Resolutions

NewYearsPicHere we are again; rushing toward the end of another year. A few things probably come to mind as we wind down 2013 and get ready for 2014. Things like, just how drunk are people going to get in the coming hours; the fact that – despite all the predictions – we’re all still here; and the question you’ll likely be asked several times – what are your resolutions for the upcoming year?

I’ve spent the last week thinking about this resolution concept and have decided I can live without the whole mess. I have no desire to create a list of things I will or will not do; only to forget about the whole thing two weeks into the new year. It’s downright depressing and doesn’t add any real value to my life.  

Some Seriously Powerful Steps

Of course there are things you want to accomplish this year. So, I’m going to hit you with the G word – Goals. You might be thinking you’ve heard the whole “Set Goals” speech a few too many times. I’m with you; so, I’m going to give you some seriously powerful steps – step four is a doozy (the secret sauce) – that will take you from goal setter to goal getter!

1. I Have a Dream

The start of any worthy goal setting adventure is to figure out what you want. I would recommend that you keep it high level. This might sound strange coming from a nerd; but I’d highly suggest going old school with paper and pen/pencil for this step. You might list things like make more money, drop lbs, be more spiritual, and travel more. This is where you let your dreamer dream without sinking in a swamp of details. Once you have your list do a quick sort to put them in order of personal importance. One a separate sheet of paper; write down your top three.

2. Just the Facts Ma-am

You’ve spent some time in the rolling meadows of your dreamer and you have your top three desires for the new year. It’s now time to get out your map and figure out exactly where you want to go. Put some specifics on those three general desires.

If you decided that saying goodbye to those extra lbs would be awesome; now’s the time to put a specific number and time-frame on that desire. So, it would look something like “I need to drop 15lbs by June 2014.” Or, you might say something like “I need to make $125k by the end of this year.” You should now have a list of three very specific accomplishments and deadlines for each.

3. What Are We Doing Tonight Brain?

This is the step that really separates a wimpy resolution from a strong goal. You have a clear vision of the promise land. It’s now time to figure out exactly how you’re going to get there. For each specific goal you have; determine exactly what you have to do each day to reach your goal in the time you indicated. To drop those extra 15lbs you might have to work out for 30 minutes a day – 3 days a week. To create the income you require you might have to work overtime 2 days a week for 6 months or make 30 calls a day to hit sales goals.

You now know what you need, how long it’s going to take to get it, and exactly what action is required to get there.

Now, for the piece that makes it all work; the secret sauce I promised you!


Some of you might be familiar with the pain/pleasure principle. It’s something that self-help gurus’ talk about and something I’ve used a great deal in my sales career. There are many aspects of the principle. Here’s how I think of it in relation to these steps “I’m not going to do a damn thing to change unless the emotional pain of staying the same is too great to bear”. You might want to read that a couple times to feel the full leverage of the statement.

For each of your three desires write down the deep emotional pain you’ll experience if you don’t accomplish those goals. This might be the most difficult of all the steps. I can promise you that completing this step will significantly increase your chances of experiencing huge success!

I want to stress how important it is for the statements to really resonate with you. You should experience an emotional response when you read what you’ve written. It might sound something like “If I don’t lose weight I won’t be able to play basketball with my son when he asks”.

You can certainly write down the positive results of your accomplishments. I would only recommend that you take the time to consider the pain of not accomplishing your goals. You’ll find this knowledge holds a great deal of power. The power to take you from goal setter to goal getter.

Best Year Ever

One of the biggest downfalls of a New Years Resolution is the time it doesn’t take to make one. Take a couple hours and work through these steps to create a solid goal and plan. Do this and you’ll have the best year ever!

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